Buddhism emphasizes the need to take care of others more than of oneself. Fortunately, on this arduous path towards devotion and self-forgetfulness there is a more accessible side street: the kindness. The one who does not get confused if the other does not behave as we wish. Thus confined, this way seems essential to me to prevent the risk of implosion of his couple and his family! But how to cultivate this practice by remaining locked in a small space with other human beings?
Le containment was until now an experience reserved for a handful of men and women: sailors, submariners, recluses, monks, nuns, hermits, reality TV contestants and prisoners. Committed, renouncing, lost or condemned people, carried by faith or the absence of faith. But we ? Have we ever imagined that one day we would be compelled – legally compelled – to remain cloistered at home? Forced to live twenty-four hours a day, seven days a week with our spouse, our children, our parents or our in-laws? Who would have signed off on this kind of proposal in the XNUMXst century? I don't know about you, but I don't!
“I no longer look for the exceptional tree to hug, a modest shrub delights me! »
Because we all have a life outside the home: the friends from work with whom we like to exchange a few words while sharing a coffee, the friends we find at lunch or at the end of the day, the streets and parks we we like to cross, the appointments that we would not miss for anything in the world... It is also “that”, our life: an environment outside the house that we have shaped in our image. And if for a large number of us – excluding caregivers and those who feed us – the lively rhythm of everyday life has stopped, another stress has appeared: that born of the deprivation of liberty.
And it is with this new feeling, which we would rather spontaneously tend to judge as unpleasant, that we must nevertheless cultivate self-sacrifice more than ever. In the best of all worlds, the whole family gets involved and it's grace! Unconditional love ! But if it is up to you to breathe this energy into your home, you will have to hold on for the long term. I quickly perceived the difficulty of the event and very quickly set up new habits.
On D+2, I had already adopted online meetings, coffee, aperitif or dinner, with my best friends. No way not to see anymore! After a few weeks of confinement, the "On-nomi", as the Japanese call them, are still blooming on my agenda as so many promises of joyful sharing and a change of scenery! I also cook regularly with a friend who lacks inspiration, online, on WhatsApp. I explain my recipe to him, we make it at the same time while drinking a glass of wine. I also take advantage of this period of forced retirement to meditate more regularly and to appreciate even more the little nature that is still accessible to me. I no longer look for the exceptional tree to hug, a modest shrub delights me! And, finally, there is the music that I savor in solo… To conclude, every day, I take care to recharge my batteries in one way or another. I ventilate myself as best I can. And so far, so good!